What's a non-derogatory term for a trap? Genuinely asking, I tried googling. I was always under the impression that traps proudly identified themselves as traps and that it's perfectly fine.
That depends on what "traps" you're referring to. Some people do self identify as traps, men who dress as women and film pornography or whatever. Also a very common trope in anime where a boy is forcibly dressed female,
But then there are also people who are born with any various configurations of genitals outside of their control who don't like being associated with the idea that they're decieving people into having sex with them. Usually these are women, usually transgender, but not always. A good term for them is "people"
The problem comes into it because people mix them up,thinking the first group is the second group or vice versa. When they're not really the same thing. One group likes to play on the expectations and subsequent apparent "betrayal" for a sexual kink, the other group are real people who want to live and love like everyone else.